I continue to hear the institution of marriage is under attack by the homosexual community. Please stop using this language. We are not at war. We are not in a battle. We do not need to take the offensive. We do not need to be offensive. We do not need to defend marriage. We do not need to be defensive.
Please stop using language with fighting and warring metaphors. Less informed, overzealous individuals pick up on our strong language and start carrying it to extremes. Likening legislation to a battle leads many to the next, absurd level of justified battles (a.k.a., just wars).
First of all, this battle cry is a day late and a dollar short. With drive-through chapels, Elvis impersonating pastors, and rubber stamping justice-of-the-peace officials, state sanctioned weddings do not, in any way, resemble the picture we claim to be defending. The 50% divorce rates of western, Christian cultures do not match the Norman Rockwell painting we are holding up.
Secondly, God is not going to “pour out his wrath upon this nation” if we allow gay marriage. Even if one’s theology maintains that the OT covenant of Law and Judgment is still alive and well today, there are significantly bigger fish with which to be concerned. Said differently, if the choices of <5% of our populace garners this much attention, then the choices of 50 to 100% of our populace should garner ten to twenty times the action — not zero.
War-metaphor rhetoric has led to abortion clinic bombings and funeral protesters. No, we are not responsible for the reprehensible actions people choose to commit. Yes, our words absolutely carry considerable weight and influence.
We must wield words well. Words that injure come easily from our fears. Words that heal come painfully from our injuries.
Do not be afraid.