Give Patty a hug….you guys are a great team!

Said with excellence.

You have a great wife, children and grandchildren.

One out of four is down to knowing God.

i actually think that is a VERY high ratio compared to what most of us humans ever get to experience in this life.

Maybe you were blessed above all?

or maybe your list was not complete?

Sometimes a different perspective on a thing can really help us overcome it? Better see what is real and what is deception or lies.

The trick is ‘moving away’ from our old aspect/view to a fresh new one without dragging the negativity with us to the ‘new’ location/view.

Practice on ’small’ things may help us learn how to do this effectively?

i for one am very glad you are still here

Got any ‘fun’ poems of late?

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And we can ‘feed’ that by playing it over and over as if on a video ‘loop’ in our mind’s ‘eye’…

Yes, we can and we do. In this area of my life, I need to let go of this craving.

i have had one or two occasions where distress lead me to seek some ‘relief’ to be granted to me from any available source, which i am assuming compares to what you are referring? it was not found ‘quickly’ but i am currently in a fairly good place

I can honestly say that i don’t think i have ever experienced what you are describing… but neither have i had anything approaching your life experiences, particularly the early and recent ones, so maybe i am not a ‘fair’ judge’?

I DO understand rather well how our brains work however, and i would say that our brains do indeed have such an ability to keep us ‘trapped’ in a no longer existing ‘circumstance’ – where what we might have expected as being ‘fair and reasonable’ was NOT what we experienced and we suffer a ‘longing’ that no longer ( if it ever) can be fulfilled.

And we can ‘feed’ that by playing it over and over as if on a video ‘loop’ in our mind’s ‘eye’ – or we can try to push it down into our subconscious (where nothing is ever ‘forgotten’ – just not able to be recalled by the conscious mind, which is not to say it no longer affects us in every day life). Neither is a very good idea although they may be hard to impossible to avoid for a time.

The answer i believe is to be found by ‘freeing’ the subconscious/conscious imbalance and by realising the truth – what is past is past now and it is up to US to live as well as we might here and hereafter.

This can take time if our brains are ‘hardwired’ (through repetition or ‘blocks’ caused by high strong walls) into a fixed pattern -We ARE able to rewire our brains but we may need a little ‘help’ to do this effectively and ’safely’.

There IS a way out that leads to a stronger and better Ric, but patience and wisdom and possibly faith will be required in abundance.

I believe you are doing the ‘right’ things and that there will be more ‘trials’ ahead, but they will be worth it in the long run.

Hang in there Bro’

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